Identity

In order to understand other people’s identity we need to understand our own. This helps us to identify whether there are differences between us and the children that we care for and their families and whether there are gaps that can be bridged. You and your family should try and spend some time thinking about this before you start caring.

A person’s identity is important particularly for black and minority ethnic children and can be made up of a mixture of the things below;

• How we look including our skin colour;
• How we dress;
• How we sound and the language that we speak;
• Our views;
• Our family values and traditions;
• Our religious beliefs;
• Our family history and background;
• Where we are born and our accent;
• How we form relationships, including our sexual orientation.

It is important for you to develop and promote a child/young person’s identity. It is vital that you uphold and develop the child’s identity particularly when they are not living with their own family or else it will weaken their sense of who they are.

Within our own culture we often do this without thinking or meaning to by assuming that what we do is the same as everybody else. The way in which we celebrate Christmas is an example of this.

Our understanding is helped by understanding the child/young person’s background and should be addressed in the Placement Plan at the start of their placement about how this will be done.

Where children are placed with you from different backgrounds or cultures, the Fostering Agency will provide additional training and support and information. This will make sure that the child/young person receives the best possible care to develop a positive understanding of their background and heritage.

The Fostering Agency and Foster Carers will ensure that full attention is paid to the individual Child or Young Person’s gender, religion, ethnic origin, cultural and linguistic background, nationality, sexual orientation and any disability they might have. Children and Young People will be encouraged and supported to have a positive view of themselves and to be proud of their identity and heritage.

This requires Foster Carers, as professionals who care for the Child or Young Person and in many cases are well placed to know the Child or Young Person best, to work in close partnership with the Child or Young Person’s Social Worker, the Supervising Social Worker, and any other relevant people, to ensure that Children and Young People are given individual personal support in line with their needs and their wishes and their feelings to develop confidence and value their individual personalities and identity.

The Fostering Agency will ensure that they provide opportunities to Foster Carers to ensure they are confident about dealing with areas relating to diversity, through ensuring appropriate advice and guidance is available, ensuring Foster Carers have full information about the Child or Young Person’s needs where the Placement Planning Meeting and Placement Plan will play a vital role in this and ensuring appropriate training is available to Foster Carers.

Foster Carers will need to balance the individual needs, wishes and preferences of the individual Child or Young Person with those of others in the household and should at all times be sensitive to gender issues, especially when caring for Children and Young People of the opposite sex.

The Fostering Agency will support Foster Carers to help individual Children or Young People cope, with the Foster Carers support, if they are subject to discrimination, marginalisation or ridicule from their peers by virtue of the areas of diversity or their ‘looked after’ status.

Foster Carers will ensure that Children and Young People are encouraged and supported to exercise choice and independence in clothes, personal items, toiletries etc. that the Foster Carer purchases. Every Child and Young Person must have sufficient good quality clothing to meet their needs.

Cultural, ethnicity, or religious based expectations about their clothing or diet will be met and supported. Children and Young People are able to exercise choice in the food that they eat, and are able to prepare their own meals and snacks, within the context of the foster family’s decision making and the limits that a responsible parent would set.

Children and Young People are given free access to the household facilities as would be consistent with reasonable arrangements in a family home. Foster Carers explain everyday household rules and expectations to Children and Young People.

Maintaining contact with family, friends and their community is a way in which a Foster Carer can help to support a Child or Young Person and is part of promoting their identity and cultural needs.

• The well-being of individual children must be at the centre of your practice. All children's achievements must be celebrated and appropriately rewarded;
• The children's day-to-day needs must be met, such as routine, privacy, personal space and nutritious meals. Children must be treated with dignity and respect;
• The children must experience care that is sensitive and responsive to their identity and family history, including age, disability, ethnicity, faith or belief, gender, gender identity, language, race and sexual orientation;
• The care of children is reviewed regularly and it is ensured that the care plan is being met;
• If any specific type or model of care is required, you will be suitably trained and supervised;
• Specialist help will be made available according to the individual needs of children, including those who live away from their 'home' authority. This help will be available as soon as it is needed, at the intensity required and for as long as it is required. If specialist services from elsewhere are not available, or children are waiting for a long time for help, the Fostering Agency will be proactive in challenging and escalating concerns with the placing authority and/or other partners;
• All necessary adaptions and equipment will be provided;
• Children must be protected, and helped to keep themselves safe, from bullying, homophobic behaviour, racism, sexism, radicalisation and other forms of discrimination. Any discriminatory behaviours must be challenged and help and support given to children about how to treat others with respect.

Culture is part of a child’s/young person’s identity and heritage. All foster carers should respect and value a child’s cultural heritage.

Culture describes the way people live their lives. Culture is based on many different factors, memories, common experience, background, language, racial identity, class, religion and family attitudes etc.

Sometimes conflicts arise in foster homes between the way you are used to living and the ways that the child/young person is used to. Dilemmas arise about what is the right thing to do. When a young person doesn’t want to follow the way that is expected of them there are rarely easy answers when sorting these problems out. Examples can be as simple as eating at the table, or religious observance. You should talk to the child and their family (where appropriate) to try and understand what their views are and find a way forward. Your Supervising Social Worker and/or the child’s social worker can also provide help.

It is possible that a child whose first language is not English may be placed with you.

Language is an important part of a child’s identity and culture. Every effort should be made to preserve a child’s linguistic and communication skills; otherwise they may lose a large part of their culture.

If you need more information or advice about a child’s cultural and linguistic needs contact the child’s social worker or your Supervising Social Worker.

You should look for ways in which you can promote the child’s identity. Discuss this with your Supervising Social Worker and the child’s social worker. This information will be important should the child return home or move to another carer.

The religious upbringing of a Child in Care is very important.

The right to determine the child's religion is one of the rights all birth parents retain for whatever reason the child comes to live with you.

Some parents may express strong preferences, but when they do this is usually reflected in the choice of a foster family for the child.

A child/young person’s disability is a part of who they are and the arrangements that are made to meet their needs are a part of respecting their identity.

Some young people may identify as transgender (i.e. as a different gender from their birth gender) or as non-binary (they may not identify as either male or female). Girls, boys and transgender/non- binary young people should receive equal opportunities and encouragement to pursue their talents, interests and hobbies. Sexist stereotypes of behaviour must not be imposed or condoned, for example there should be equal expectations that boys and girls will participate in domestic tasks.

Young people who are experiencing gender identity issues should, in general, be given space and support to develop their own gender identity, However it is important that they are protected from adverse effects such as bullying and discrimination.

Some young people may wish to discuss specialist medical intervention, or may require specialist support. Discuss this with your Supervising Social Worker and the child’s social worker. They may also wish to be known or referred to as different pronouns, it is always important that we understand the pronoun the child or young person uses to describe and identify themselves with.

It is useful to think about all the things a child or young person comes into contact with. For example, toys books and posters. Do they have positive images of children who are from a different race or who have a disability?

This may seem like a small thing but it can have a big impact on a child if for instance all they see are images of white children and they are black, this is also important for things like birthday cards.

Children and Young People receive a weekly personal allowance (pocket money) appropriate to their age and in accordance with the amount determined in the fostering allowance. Foster Carers are also encouraged to save money for Children and Young People each week/month which is separate to the pocket money allowance given directly to Children and Young People.

Foster Carers must ensure that Children and Young People are able to enjoy their interests, develop confidence in their skills and are supported and encouraged to engage in leisure activities.

Children and Young People need access to a wide range of positive activities to help them to achieve success.

Foster Carers are encouraged by the Fostering Agency to enable Children and Young People to take part in activities such as sports, cubs and scouts, brownies and guides, drama groups, youth clubs and volunteering. The activities from which Children and Young People will derive enjoyment and satisfaction will vary with the individual, but such experiences will be important in giving Children and Young People a sense of achievement.

Foster Carers will support Children and Young People to take part in school based and out of school activities

Children and Young People are supported to take part in a range of activities, including leisure activities and trips.

Through the Placement Plan, Foster Carers will be clear about decisions they can make around day to day arrangements which includes leisure activities.

Children and Young People have permission to take part in age appropriate peer activities as would normally be granted by a reasonable parent to their Children, within the framework of the Placement Plan.

Foster Carers will support Children and Young People to make and sustain friendships, which may involve reciprocal arrangements to visit friends’ homes.

• Placement Plan & Delegated Authority Proforma;
• Risk Assessment;
• Care Plan;
• Individual Safer Caring Plan.